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Below are a variety of articles written in campus newspapers about a campus visit. Hamline
University, April 20, 2006 In Ending Rape, Men Must Take
Active Roles “We live in a rape culture... Hamline has a rape culture.
It is so pervasive that we don’t see it.” These words were
spoken by Keith Edwards during his recent presentation, “She Fears
You,” on April 20 at Hamline that focused on the role of men in
society in preventing rape. Now, I am a man, and I have to say that I
have never been an attacker, never had the urge to do so, and never intend
to commit such an act. It is wrong. I know that. We all know that, don’t
we? At least I hope we all know that. The statistics indicate otherwise.
Rape happens far more than anyone should feel comfortable with. One in
four college women report surviving rape or attempted rape. Think about
how many college women you know, and think about taking one quarter of
them. It is a lot of women. The chances that one of them has been a victim
is very high, and if you are like me, you are completely oblivious to
the hardship they have likely suffered. Not because you are ignorant,
not because you are a bad person, but maybe just because the subject is
too painful, too much of a social taboo to be discussed openly. Most men
will say the same; that they would never dream of raping anyone. But the
numbers say otherwise. 84 percent of men who have admitted to actions
consistent with the legal definition of rape do not believe their actions
were illegal. In other words, 84 percent of rapists do not even know they
are rapists. Student Upholds
Sex Abuse Education
Sex may be connected with many things at Syracuse University, but until
Thursday night, apples had not been one of them. This association was
made by Keith Edwards, a graduate student from the University of Maryland
College Park who spoke last night to students in HBC's Gifford Auditorium. Jess Larsen, a senior public relations and sociology major and executive coordinator of Students Advancing Sexual Safety and Empowerment, said they helped provide funding so Edwards could come to SU. SASSE has two core values, increasing sexual safety and empowerment through knowledge, Larsen said, and given the experiences of college women, bringing Edwards was essential. Although any type of discussion on the subject is positive, Larsen admits that having a few more men in attendance would have been more effective. "It's not only a women's issue," said Melissa Kleinman, a graduate student with a master's degree in social work and coordinator of SASSE. The presentation was conveyed from the feminine perspective that men are the perpetrators and that women are the victims or survivors. The motivation of the discussion was to raise awareness that men can end sexual violence and attain social justice. At first, the students seemed reluctant as they filled the auditorium sporadically and assuming seats distant from the stage. As students were asked to move up and towards the center a few times until cooperating, Edwards assured it would be a good time. He then advised students to feel free to leave the auditorium if any of the discussion made them too emotional, and encouraged those to touch base with someone if this were the case. He encouraged students to stay and talk with him after concerning the discussion, "if you think I'm full of shit." A key point of the presentation was that 99 percent of women are the primary victims of sexual assault on the college campuses. He encouraged the audience to keep in mind that this "affects us all." It was stressed that too often society takes the reactive approach to sexual assault issues. College women are advised not to go certain places alone, to carry mace and a cell phone with them. Women are being told "rape happens here, here's how you women need to deal with it." Edwards said that by being polite and demonstrating positive behavior, men can redefine what it means to be greek or an athlete. He made a point to acknowledged members of the fraternity Zeta Beta Tau who were in attendance at the presentation. However, when the group left early, Edwards said, "that's how you change the perception of your fraternity." Edwards notices this fear women have of him as a man because when walking towards them, they reach for their keys or pull out their cell phone and dial three numbers, then wait to push send. The fact that he is bothered by being acknowledged as a potential perpetrator by women, and is angered by those who rape and have taken away his humanity. "Because some men rape, it affects all of us," Edwards said. Edwards had a male member of the audience stand and then asked the women in the audience if they thought this student had ever been feared, the majority confirmed by raising their hands. Edwards said that when women refuse to be afraid, the men who rape benefit. He said that a good self-defense class teaches women how to deal with and accept their fear. We live in a sexist, patriarchal society where women are told they are weak or less than men and where fear is considered feminine or an indication of weakness, said Edwards. In a campus survey featured in the lecture, "One in 12 college men had acted in a manner which would be defined legally as rape, and 84% saw nothing wrong with what they had done." Julianna Tobak, an undecided freshman, said that she walked into the presentation thinking she knew everything about the issue of rape, but now realizes that the media portray things that aren't reality. Larsen and Kleinman of SASSE said that what was most critical about the presentation was that it brought SASSE and A Men's Issue together as a reflection of men and women working together, and they will fight until sexual violence ends. Edwards said that the younger generations are being misinformed by the media. Instances such as that of Justin Timberlake and Janet Jackson is not obscenity but sexual assault and it is our responsibility to pay attention and speak up, because we have the chance of making a difference. "Don't doubt the power of your own voice," Edwards said.
Speaker to
Promote Rape Awareness from Male Standpoint Syracuse University will host a presentation Thursday aimed at promoting the idea that men can stop rape. Rape-prevention advocate Keith Edwards will speak at 5:30 p.m. in Gifford Auditorium. There is no cost to attend. Edwards' speech will be part of a presentation titled "She Fears You," which is aimed at raising awareness among men that rape prevention is not just a women's issue but also a men's issue, Edwards said. "Men are the main perpetrators in the cases of rapes and sexual violence in general," said Collin Capano, president of A Men's Issue. "Women are the victims, yes, but men are the ones doing it and it only makes sense that, to make it stop, we have to go to the source of the problem. Women can only do so much." AMI is collaborating with Students Advancing Sexual Safety and Empowerment, University Union and the Office of Residence Life to bring Edwards to campus, Capano said. "She Fears You" will use dialogue, provocative posters and a multimedia presentation to capture the attention of men about this issue, according to the Men Ending Rape Web site, a rape prevention advocacy group that Edwards belongs to. Men Ending Rape is a speaking group that is comprised of Edwards and Troy Headrick. The two men travel to college and university campuses, delivering presentations and working with campus organizations to promote awareness about rape prevention as a men's issue, Edwards said. The group is also trying to change what Edwards believes to be a culture on campus that condones rape, he said. Edwards was invited to speak at SU by Tremayne Robertson, faculty advisor of AMI, Robertson said. Robertson met Edwards in April 2004 at an American College Personnel Association conference and was impressed that Edwards held the proactive view of rape prevention. "I subscribe to the same school of thought as Keith Edwards," Robertson said. "When you approach the issue of sexual violence, it makes sense not to be reactive, but to be proactive because men are the ones who perpetrate the crime." Rape prevention does not enjoy an adequate level of awareness as a men's issue, said Nana Ntsakey, an undeclared sophomore in The College of Arts and Sciences. "I don't think it's as good as it should be. Some of my friends think, 'I'm a guy. It's a women's issue. Let them handle it,'" Ntsakey said. "What if it was your mom or your sister that this happened to?" Jessica Larsen, president of Students Advocating Sexual Safety and Empowerment, also hopes to make men relate to the problem of sexual violence, because she believes it is one that affects everybody, she said. "We need to recognize just how prevalent it is and how it affects men even if they don't commit rape," she said. One in four women leaving college has been sexually assaulted, Larsen said. "Those women are our sisters, our friends, our mothers and our co-workers," Larsen said. "Sexual assault affects all of us, whether we know it or not ... It's easy to say it's not our issue, until it's one of our friends that gets raped, until it's someone we love." Robertson said he views the objectives of the presentation and AMI as bearing a wider scope. Sexual violence is not simply a men's or women's issue, but a "human issue," he said. Until people start to view it as such, things will only get worse, he said. "Injustice anywhere is equivalent to injustice everywhere," he said, paraphrasing Dr. Martin Luther King. "If one person is suffering, we're all suffering." Edwards made a similar call for an end to rape and sexual violence. "Women continue to be raped and that affects women
and it affects men," Edwards said. "We need to stop rape for
the obvious reasons." Edwards
Incites Men to Oppose Rape Think of your mother, your grandmother, your sister and an aunt. Statistically, one of the them was, or will be, sexually assaulted in college. That frightening figure and several more were brought to the forefront by Keith Edwards, a College Student Personnel graduate up-and-comer at the University of Maryland, who presented "She Fears You: Men Ending Rape," a piece of the events in the limelight during "Hate To Do It: Anti-Hate Week." Edwards tailored his aphorisms Sunday night to a practically standing-room-only crowd in the Seymour Union Ballroom - primarily comprised of Greek Life participants and resident assistants, whose attendance was compulsory - detailing what men can do to stop rape. This gist, he feels, is unique in the anti-rape speaker circuit. Edwards said his approach is no better than anyone else's, but is distinctive, and the only on of its kind he's encountered. His objective is to anger men by relaying that 33 percent of college men would perpetrate a rape if assurance was given they'd never be caught or prosecuted. He angers them by stating that women continually perceive them as a threat to their safety and well-being. He angers them and uses their fury as a catalyst for change, because as he would say, men are feared everyday of their lives, as a result of the actions other men have taken who have violated women in the unthinkably cruel and long-lasting ways that are rape and sexual assault. According to Edwards, women who are raped or sexually assaulted - the former meaning unwanted penetration of genitalia, the latter defined as uninvited groping or touching - have skyrocketing rates of chronic depression and suicide tendencies. He crusades to exterminate violence against women for three paramount reasons: the women he cares about, rape negatively affecting men, but by and large for the millions of women he'll never know. The last phone call he wants to receive is from a law enforcement agent, breaking news that his mother, sister or a female friend has been the victim of sexual assault. A bit of his humanity is taken away each time a rape is committed, as one more woman will have trepidations of men at large. One more woman will avoid him walking down a well-lit street. One more woman will wait in her car for him to simply go away so she can feel sage. Edwards is the pick of the liter, in so far as sensitivity in a male-dominated, frequently sexist and chauvinistic society. it is colossally refreshing to see a man of graduate school stature standing on a platform he created himself saying, while he's proud to be a man, he classifies himself as a feminist. Edwards would go to bat in a nanosecond for any woman in need of emotional support, or any man willing to aid him in his fight and share his vision for a rape and sexual assault free world. His pick-of-the-litter values and chiseled good looks make him any woman's finest candidate to bring home and meet the parents. Not all in the room were so receptive to his open-minded display of oratorical fireworks, however. Some audience members were downright hostile, demanding an explanation for why he's "against men" or "excludes the 1 percent of rapes that aren't committed by men." His answer is perfunctory: Men rape. That is a fact. All men are perceived as potential rapists. The whole of the women in the room tended to side with Edwards, while one man was so enraged he felt his exit cure appropriate mid-conversation. The man vacated, to stew in his fumes, as Edwards disclosed that when he initially absorbed this lecture, he was as irate, if not more. But he didn't forget it. He never forgot it. Several years down the line, after a great deal of reflection on the ignorance of his reaction and a healthy dose of maturity, his viewpoint shifted. It appears anyone so ardently disagreeing with such a speaker and a notion has the potential, ultimately, to convert their zeal to the opposing camp.
Sexual
Assault on Women and Men Infuriates Keith Edwards A statistic stating that 33 percent of college men would engage in rape if they were assured they'd never be caught or punished visibly angers this University of Maryland Ph.D. hopeful, studying College Student Personnel Administration. In fact, during his well-attended lecture "She Fears You," a part of the Hate To Do It: Anti-hate Week, Sunday evening in the Seymour College Union, he said he's feared. And he hates it. "But I won't blame the women who fear me," Edwards said. "I blame the women who rape." Citing a personal drive to eradicate rape and sexual assault - the former defined by non-consensual penetration of genitalia, the latter as unwanted groping or frisking - the impassioned speaker said he habitually classifies himself as a feminist. Though he acknowledges that same-sex rape and sexual assault do occur, and that women to rape men, 99 percent of reported rape, Edwards said, are men-on women. "Men rape. That is a fact. If men didn't rape, rape wouldn't happen. All men may be perceived as potential rapists." He asked the audience brimming principally with Greek Life participants and resident assistants, who attendance was obligatory, to actively participate, which many students, who expected to be mere observers, took him up on. Some concurred with his messages, while others stirred contention. Edwards delve into the advertisements posted around campus for his lecture. One such poster featured a white background, and enlarged, midnight black emblazoned font that read, "Men" and "rape" with a horizontal oval in the center that broke the text up to state "Men can stop rape." Some participants said they found this message insulting, while others found it feministic. Another spoke up and said he thought it implies only men rape, while another found it sexist. "I don't come across many posters that make me feel badly about myself," one man said. "But I felt badly." Another student, Zachariah Lieberman, said Edwards has valid points. "This lecture looks at men in a positive light," Lieberman said. "It makes us think about why we're lumped into that category. The rest (of these lectures) seem to be more like support groups." Edwards went on to ask how many people in the room have heard the following recurring themes in American life directed at women: Don't wear that. Don't go there at night. Carry mase He said he hates that women, as he's merely trying to walk home at night, reach for their cell phones and dial 911, be delay pressing "send" before his next move. He said he doesn't know what he's supposed to do. "Should I put my hands in my pockets, or will she think I'm reaching for something? Should I cross the street? Should I scream, 'I'm not a rapist! I'm just trying to get home!/?" Edwards decried those who wear the notorious "Big Johnson T-Shirts," as he considers there to be immeasurably more to his masculinity than his penis' length or girth. As such, he says intelligence, integrity and articulating a wide range of emotions to have deep and meaningful relationships should be at the forefront of the discussion on manliness. "Big Johnson T-shirts dumb down and objectify women," Edwards said. "These T-shirts contribute to a 'rape culture.' Men don't know what rape is. They don't know its definition." Rape, simply defined, Edwards said, has three parts: sex, forced, sans consult. Informed consent, he said, involves parties being coherent, conscious and audibly uttering phrases that could not conceivably be misleading or inaccurate. "No one asks to be raped," Edwards said. "Nothing makes it acceptable, Ok or that they're asking to be raped. Sex with someone who can't give informed consent is rape." |
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